Trauma-informed individual and couples counseling for adults

Maybe you keep finding yourself in the same kind of relationship, different person, same pattern, whether that's friendship or romantic. For some, this has meant living through narcissistic abuse, sexual trauma, or emotional abuse. We'll take an honest look at what you've lived through and how it's shaped the way you show up in relationships now, with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment, so you can start relating to yourself and others differently.

 If you grew up as the adult child of a dysfunctional family, you likely learned to adapt in ways that helped you survive but don't always serve you now. Together we’ll look at how your early relationships shaped your attachment style, your sense of safety, and how you show up in your relationships today, while holding space for the fact that there can be pain and gratitude at the same time.

Divorce doesn't always mean the conflict ends, sometimes it's ongoing hostility, legal stress, coercive control, or co-parenting battles that never seem to let up. We'll work through the emotional reality of what you're living with and find ways for you to protect your sense of self and wellbeing while navigating life after separation.

You may be a targeted parent experiencing estrangement or a relationship with your child that keeps changing in painful ways, I want you to know that particular kind of grief and pain is real, even when it's hard for others to understand. We'll make space for everything you’re holding while working on what staying connected to yourself and your child might look like for you.

Sometimes it's heaviness. Sometimes it's worry that won't quiet down, exhaustion, fear, numbness, or a disconnection you can't quite explain, and it’s getting harder and harder to ignore it. We'll work together to understand what's underneath it and build a way forward that actually fits the way you want to live your life. 

Deconstructing a high-control religious upbringing is more than deciding not to go to church anymore. It's walking away from your community or being rejected by it, and at the same time having to rebuild the way you live, believe, and see yourself. I understand this is tender and terrifying territory, and we can create a space for you in the therapy room to process the ways religion shaped your identity, relationships, and everyday life.

If you're the one who's always giving, always available, always making sure everyone else is okay, even and often at your own expense, you deserve support that doesn’t ask you to do that. We'll explore where that pattern started: when you learned that your worth was tied to how helpful, agreeable, or easy you were to be around. We'll look at how safety, control, and connection show up in your people-pleasing, and work toward a version of you that can show up fully without abandoning yourself to keep the peace or be loved.

If you were the one who had to grow up too fast, managing a parent's emotions, caretaking for siblings, or carrying responsibilities that were never yours to hold, you don’t have to keep operating that way. We'll explore how those family-of-origin and generational patterns took root, and work toward helping you set down what was never yours to carry in the first place.

If you feel everything deeply, big emotions, big empathy, a mind that won't stop turning things over, you're not too much, and you're not broken. We'll work with that intensity instead of trying to talk you out of it: learning how to sit with your feelings without getting swept under their current, and how to quiet an overactive mind enough to actually rest in it.

If you were raised in Western evangelical Christianity and you're now questioning, unraveling, or walking away from what you were taught, you don't have to do it alone. We'll work through the doubt, the grief of losing your community, and the fear that came with being taught certainty was required of you. Together we'll rebuild a sense of self, meaning, and even spirituality, on terms that are actually yours.